Today we are going to B’s mother’s house to have pork and kraut.  While it is not his favorite, the good part is sitting down to a meal with family.  I will also get the present her, mom-mom, Linda and Uncle K with our family pictures and pictures of the girl that they have wanted.  I did not have them printed in time for Christmas, but now it is exciting to be able to gift them!  I am thinking I will possibly try a trip to Justice with the girl to spend her gift card.  I have been unable to take her because of this hard recovery, but daddy will be along so I can sit when I need to.  We will see how we all feel afterwards. 

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I am hoping for a fantastic year!  Better than the last.  Of course, all lives have ups and downs, but we can conquer and move above and beyond that and make it better for ourselves and our family.  We are going to put out the jar and put all the good things that happen so we can look back at it at the end of the year.  I sure pray that it is packed with great memories! 

Let’s make this a very good year!  My prayers are for the best for everyone I know and love. 

I found this on Sips and Steps Blog.  I want to win so bad!!  Chobani is the best!!

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What a great 9th birthday my “baby” girl had.  Sleepover, Sweet & Sassy, food, cake, zebra zebra everywhere!  She was so tired from 2 nights of sleepovers and all the activity that she slept until Noon on Sunday.  We are taking her on a trip to Cleveland as her actual “gift” though we got her a few small things.  I know, big gift, but we have not vacationed in 2 summers so we have to do something nice. 

Meanwhile, I have been fretting this coming Monday since last week.  I will know this week, without exception, if August first is going to be my last day of work or if I get the chance to apply for the job.  While trying to have faith I do have a bad feeling, only because I know who applied and see no reason for them not to take her.  Darn Unions!  I do pray the University will have another opening.  Even though I do not wish to remain a Temp, it is better than the alternative of no job for who knows how long.  I have still been asking God to Bless me though.  We will see.

I thought I would put down a sort of bullet list of things on my mind that I tell people who are having (or have just had) this surgery.  I seem to be seeing more and more people who are in need of this info so here you are:

  • If you think you will be that *ONE* person that this will not work for, think again.  I thought it.  I was sure I would lose a little bit of weight and then stop like was true with everything else that I tried.  This surgery allows you the ability to lose it this time and there is no way you can stop it from happening.
  • This bring me to my TOOL speech.  When the Doctor goes in there and moves your insides around he is NOT giving you a crutch to use for the rest of your life.  He is giving you a TOOL.  You have to work with this tool, respect to tool, use the tool the right way.  You do what the Doctor tells you – and you do this for the    rest.of.your.life.   Follow the rules.  Like the Capri Sun commercial says “Respect the pouch!!”
  • You will have pain after surgery.  Everyone is different in how they handle pain and the kind of pain they have.  You may have a little or a lot.  Either way you are given something to take the pain away – use it.  Don’t be a hero.  Don’t be afraid of sleep.  Take the pain meds, rest, eat and drink like you are told, rest, rest, and rest and you will heal a lot better.
  • Eat by the clock.  You will not be hungry in the beginning.  You will not feel hunger – real hunger- for a very long time.  You will crave things and be “head hungry” on and off, but you will not have the hunger in your stomach for a long time.  You need to eat about every 3 hours to keep your metabolism up and your strength up.  And watch the clock while you eat.  You should eat very very slowly and eat for about 20 minutes and then stop.
  • Make sure to do your walking.  This keeps things moving, improves your stamina, and makes you feel better.
  • When you are given the go ahead be sure to take your vitamins.  All of them, everyday, don’t miss a dose or a day.  Get a pill box to put some in to take with you in case you are out for a long time.
  • You WILL have hair loss.  This is mostly from the shock your body is in.  It also has to do with vitamin levels being low, but for the most part it is your body trying to cope.  You will NOT go bald.  You will think you are going bald, but you won’t.  And it will stop eventually.  Have patience.
  • The most important part of this surgery other than following what you are taught is SUPPORT.  If you do not have a support group to attend once a month then you need to find one.  You do not have to go to your hospital for support- any will do.  But you need to go.  You also need to surround yourself with people who will support you.  I told people I was not asking for their permission but for their support so if they could not give me that I did not need to hear from them.  I did not want to hear “stories” and I would not listen.  If you pay attention, the vast majority of people who have heard stories of people having problems do not actually KNOW the people- it is just “stories”  And really, who cares!  You know you will do what the Doctor says so why worry about what is going to happen?  The risk of this surgery FAR outweighs the risks that you will have for being overweight for the rest of your life.  And the risk is low.  You may as well weigh your risk of getting hit by a bus vs something going wrong during surgery.  AND the majority of people with real issues afterwards are because they did not follow their Doctors orders the way they should have.  So- find a good support system and keep this system in place at all times.

I have probably recently discovered the worst part of this WLS.  I started my weight loss journey at 255lbs.  I remember thinking I will be thrilled to get to 150lbs and wear a normal size, even if it is a large!  The end goal of 130 I had in my mind, but I never thought I would see it.  Well, the problem is, for most people who go through the WLS process and follow it the right way, not only is their goal achieved but it is usually surpassed.  So, as I watched 130 pounds come and go on the scale, as you can imagine I was thrilled.  I got all the way down to 121 pounds.  Wow!  If I could do that I was hoping to be able to see the “teens”  but I never managed to get to the teens.  I was going to Zumba a few times a week, jogging on nice days, using my Wii Fit that Brian got me for Christmas, doing weights on my balance ball, I was doing one thing or another for a very long time.  Then I started getting all these painful “attacks” that I thought each time I had a stomach bug.  Well, it turned out it was not a bug but I had some problems that needed surgically corrected.  But, anyhow, once I started having all this pain I did not and could not work out like I used to.  I have been eating a lot less because it hurt so much to eat.  So, I think both of these happenings sent my body into the mode of preserving everything I did take in.  I went up to 131.  Yes- it is almost 20 pounds less than the original goal and only 1 pound more than my ultimate goal, however, because I ended up going down so low, I got used to it.  I was happy to be so small no matter how I was told by a few that I looked.  I knew that being that low would give me a few pounds to play with…but not 10!!  So, being 131 and putting on shorts that are a little snug now, because last year I was in the low 120’s all summer makes me feel like I am 250 pounds again.  It is the worst part!!  I am starting a weight loss challenge with the people I work with, so that and my latest surgery healing up (soon I hope!!) to allow me to get back to feeling good and moving a lot more should get some of that 10 pounds off.  I WILL be happy to get 7 off….but 11 to 15 would be FANTASTIC!!  I am not going to let it go to where I MUST get 20 off again …or 40 …or 50!  I feel horrible enough now that 10 is all I need to kick my butt back in gear.  Funny, gaining 10 pounds I didn’t use to notice it, but now it is like I gained 25!  Funny how the body and the brain works!

Not officially or anything, but it is close enough.  This is “birthday weekend” and Jenna has already started the party.  Her bestie Sara is spending tonight, tomorrow we are going to a skating party where 8 of her other friends will be then 2 more will come home with us for a sleep-over, so 4 little giggly girls will be taking over my house!  Sunday is Father’s day and we have some dad festivities planned.  Wednesday is her actual birthday so I am leaving work at 2pm, picking her up, taking her to the Sugi-center for her pre-surgery tour then we will head to the Olive Garden for her birthday dinner!  Then comes Friday – her tonsils are coming out.  She has been having a lot of anxiety about it that I have been trying to control, but this morning I had her pre-op interview/history on the phone so now it has set in for me and I am nervous for her.  This is not our first rodeo with her, but the first time everything happened so fast and furious that we didn’t have much time to worry- we just had to go with the flow.  I know she will be OK and recoup won’t be awful for her, but it is just knowing they are taking my only baby into that room without me.  I am sure we will all come out the other side just fine – so long as I first make it past this weekend!

This is an older post but I have met more people who are newly out of surgery or early out of surgery.  Just the tips I have learned along the way and thought I would pass on again….edited a bit to add something!  ENJOY!

I thought I would put down a sort of bullet list of things on my mind that I tell people who are having (or have just had) this surgery.  I seem to be seeing more and more people who are in need of this info so here you are:

  • If you think you will be that *ONE* person that this will not work for, think again.  I thought it.  I was sure I would lose a little bit of weight and then stop like was true with everything else that I tried.  This surgery allows you the ability to lose it this time and there is no way you can stop it from happening.
  • This bring me to my TOOL speech.  When the Doctor goes in there and moves your insides around he is NOT giving you a crutch to use for the rest of your life.  He is giving you a TOOL.  You have to work with this tool, respect to tool, use the tool the right way.  You do what the Doctor tells you – and you do this for the    rest.of.your.life.   Follow the rules.  Like the Capri Sun commercial says “Respect the pouch!!”
  • You will have pain after surgery.  Everyone is different in how they handle pain and the kind of pain they have.  You may have a little or a lot.  Either way you are given something to take the pain away – use it.  Don’t be a hero.  Don’t be afraid of sleep.  Take the pain meds, rest, eat and drink like you are told, rest, rest, and rest and you will heal a lot better.
  • Eat by the clock.  You will not be hungry in the beginning.  You will not feel hunger – real hunger- for a very long time.  You will crave things and be “head hungry” on and off, but you will not have the hunger in your stomach for a long time.  You need to eat about every 3 hours to keep your metabolism up and your strength up.  And watch the clock while you eat.  You should eat very very slowly and eat for about 20 minutes and then stop.
  • Make sure to do your walking.  This keeps things moving, improves your stamina, and makes you feel better.
  • When you are given the go ahead be sure to take your vitamins.  All of them, everyday, don’t miss a dose or a day.  Get a pill box to put some in to take with you in case you are out for a long time.
  • You WILL have hair loss.  This is mostly from the shock your body is in.  It also has to do with vitamin levels being low, but for the most part it is your body trying to cope.  You will NOT go bald.  You will think you are going bald, but you won’t.  And it will stop eventually.  Have patience.
  • The most important part of this surgery other than following what you are taught is SUPPORT.  If you do not have a support group to attend once a month then you need to find one.  You do not have to go to your hospital for support- any will do.  But you need to go.  You also need to surround yourself with people who will support you.  I told people I was not asking for their permission but for their support so if they could not give me that I did not need to hear from them.  I did not want to hear “stories” and I would not listen.  If you pay attention, the vast majority of people who have heard stories of people having problems do not actually KNOW the people- it is just “stories”  And really, who cares!  You know you will do what the Doctor says so why worry about what is going to happen?  The risk of this surgery FAR outweighs the risks that you will have for being overweight for the rest of your life.  And the risk is low.  You may as well weigh your risk of getting hit by a bus vs something going wrong during surgery.  AND the majority of people with real issues afterwards are because they did not follow their Doctors orders the way they should have.  So- find a good support system and keep this system in place at all times.
  • Last but not least.  When you are 18+ months out.  at or past your goal and you notice you gained a pound or two do not ignore it.  Of course weight fluctuates, however, I beg you to take inventory on what you are doing.  Did you add in some sweets?  And it went OK so now every day you have a sweet?  Did you eat bread too much? Did you forget to eat your protein first?  Are you drinking your calories now?  Look at what you are doing.  If you are still acting like you did when you were 3 months out you are doing fine.  If old habits have started to creep back up on you- nip it NOW!!  You will thank yourself in the long run.

Brian and I did our first, but not our last, 5k on November 7th.  It was very cold but we warmed up once we got started.  It was in Oley and on a very hilly path.  We knew going in we were going to mostly walk, which we did.  I did start to try to run but from climbing the hill my legs were a little crampy so I just walked.  When we got back to the road to head back to the start of the course we decided to stop and wait for the people running the 10 mile race until our friend came by. Once she ran by we continued on our way.  I did not know we were supposed to give in the bottom of our number so I did not do that until quite a while passed.  I am sure when I saw the time on the results they posted they just guessed on our time.  No surprise at all, but we were the last two, which is fine as I knew our goal was to finish – which we did!  We decided we will try to train for the next year and actually run it next year.  And again, if we are the last two that is fine, at least we will finish.  But, in the Spring I will see if there are some walks, maybe fundraisers, that we can do while we are training.  It felt good and it is nice to have a shirt to show off our accomplishment also!  I know I will never be a true runner.  For one thing I am not fast enough.  I also just simply do not enjoy it enough to be a serious runner, but I did very much enjoy the nice long walk!  I will search once the weather breaks in the late winter/early spring for walks to do!  It will be our new hobby!